Hello Everyone! I have decided that each Tuesday will be called, "Marriage Tip Tuesday." I was talking with Jeff, and I told him that I would like to take one day a week to share marriage tips with my readers. I was rambling off ideas of what the title of the post should be, when he said, "What about marriage tip Tuesday?" Such an obvious title; I was just looking into it too much. :) The tips that I share with you are ones that I practice daily in my marriage, and I hope that they will be helpful in your marriage as well.
I have decided to start with the basic truth that was written in scripture over 2,000 years ago, and comes from the book of Ephesians. "However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband." (5:33) Since I am speaking mainly to ladies, I am going to focus on the second half of this verse in regards to respect. Your husband needs to know and feel that they are respected by you. It is life giving to them. This means that they do not want to be talked down to, or fell overpowered by you.
God intended for us to allow our husbands to be the head of the home and support them in their decisions. (Please note that I am not saying if your husband is involved in anything ungodly such as adultery, pornography, abuse, etc. that you are to support that). However, if you know that you husband is striving to do the best he can and is seeking God's will in the mist of it all, you should also strive to encourage and support him day in and day out. No one wants to feel disrespected and God calls us to respect our husbands.I would think it would be safe to say that besides intimacy, this is what each man desires from his wife. I also believe that the way you handle respect, will determine the strength and happiness of your marriage. In most cases, when a wife respects her husband well, the husband in return will love his wife well. As I was thinking about writing this post, I went through some of my marriage references and thought this quote from Kirk Cameron was fitting,"Never look down on your spouse. Instead keep looking above to the cross." If you have a hard time wrapping your mind around this concept of respecting and submitting to your husband, I would encourage you to go to Jesus and ask for His help in this matter. He is able to help you achieve anything as long as you're willing to ask. Respecting your husband isn't always easy, but I promise it will be worth it!