Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Marriage Tip Tuesday


     When it comes to your marriage, how much time are you spending with your spouse? I'm not talking about being in the same place at the same time, I'm talking about that deep, one on one time that we all need to be having with our spouse. I have been really convicted lately about how much more time I spend on other things such as the Internet, TV, housekeeping, etc., instead of taking each precious moment I get to spend with my husband. I would say out of all these, the Internet gets most of my attention. If I'm not working on this blog, I'm on pinterest. If I'm not on pinterest, I'm on other blogs, and so on. As a matter of fact, just last night I could tell that Jeff was really trying to get my attention, but what did I do? I selfishly chose to finish what I was doing on the computer, rather than give my husband the attention he rightfully deserves. Later on, I felt so guilty about it that I ended up writing him a short letter to apologize and promised that we would be spending some quality time together tonight. So, that is what I encourage you to do as well. Pull the plug on the computer, TV, or whatever it may be that serves as a distraction to you. I don't know about you, but I don't want these things to have my heart, and here lately... they have. Instead I want more than anything for God to have my heart first, and my husband second. I need to more intentional to number the days I have on this earth and make the most of every moment. Starting now, that is exactly what I'm going to do. Jeff will be home in a couple of hours, and when he gets home I refuse to let any distractions come between us. Will you decide to do the same thing for your husband as well? I promise the quality time and bond you build will mean so much more to you than anything else. Give him the attention he wants, needs, and most definitely deserves.

15 comments:

  1. Amen!
    Thanks for the encouragement!

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  2. So true. It makes all the difference in the world when you stay connected, but there are a million distractions out there. Thanks for the reminder :)

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  3. Oh goodness, I am guilty of this ALL the time. My hubby actually needs some quiet, alone time when he gets home from work just to unwind, but way too often we find ourselves on our respective computers instead of doing something TOGETHER. Thank you for this reminder and encouragement!! :)

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  4. Thank you for this reminder! My husband and I just had a conversation about this very topic earlier in the week. I am so guilty of putting many things before my marriage: kids, work, blogging, etc, and that is very dangerous ground where Satan loves to trip us up.

    Thanks for linking up to What Works Wednesday. :)

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  5. I fall into this same trap often...and most of my time is spent on the blog too! While blogging has its place, I need to make sure to prioritize time with my husband. We have a date night planned for Friday and the baby is going to grandmas! I'm looking forward to it!

    Thanks for linking up with WIP Wednesday!
    Mary Beth

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  6. Amen! I love this. Me and mine try to play a game or something at least once a week. Whether it be Mario cart, blackjack, bingo, or even go fish. I think you would really enjoy some of Gary Chapmans books. I recently finished "What I wish I would have known before I got married" and I've pretty much told all of my married, single, and dating friends that they HAVE to read it! New follower visiting from Jamie's. You can find me at divalearningdomestic.blogspot.com

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  7. Haley,
    Thanks so much for stopping by! I have read, "The Five Love Languages," by Gary Chapman, and loved it. My brother has the book you mentioned, so perhaps I will have to borrow it. Glad you decided to follow me on this beautiful journey. I will be sure to visit your blog as well :)

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  8. Thanks for the reminder. This is something that I do all to often.

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  9. I dislike the use of "deserve," but understand the point. I've been feeling these things as well. For me, though, it's more a problem in the reverse and I cannot change my husband's focus. So, I just keep on keepin' on. :)

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  10. So true! My husband/marriage needs to come before anything else online! I've been there before where I knew he was just waiting for me and I kept on browsing. Great, encouraging words of wisdom! Visiting from Thankful Thursday :0)

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  11. It is too true Ashley how easy it is to get caught up in things and forget the relationship right in front of you. It takes work and practice to set your priorities. Thanks for the reminder.

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  12. I applaud this post! This was where I was at too a few weeks ago... it seems the Lord has been speaking to many of us on these linkies recently concerning the same thing.

    By the way, what a fine couple you look :D

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  13. Thank you all for your kind comments. I am very passionate about marriage, and will do all I can to encourage couples in today's secular society. God created marriage,and he desires to see us thrive. When He is at the center of our marriage, it's amazing to see what He can do for us :)

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  14. Great, encouraging post. Thank you for linking with Thankful Thursday!

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  15. Great Encouragement !!! Love this post thank you for sharing!!

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